I just want to know why it is that I dream dreams at times where there is sexual content to it. The ones that are romantic in nature are fine, but then there are the ones that I can see myself having relations with a man and times where I don't see myself, but know that it is me in the dream. I don't go around throughout the day thinking of sex or any man in that way, so why would I be having these types of dreams? This disturbs me because I feel there is no foundation for me to be having them, and I don't want to feel that I am not pure in God's sight. Any insight would be greatly appreciated.
Answer from Mark Virkler
Let me lay out some possible roots of a sexual dream.
First possible cause - I may have an evil heart:
If I’m reading or viewing pornography or otherwise fantasizing about illicit sex, then the dream is coming from an evil or perverted heart and is showing sin in my heart which I need to repent of. I think we all agree that dreams can reflect the evil in one’s heart and call us to repentance. So fine, I repent and stop sinning!
A second possible cause of a sexual dream - normal sexual rhythms within our bodies:
Principle: “Our bodily needs show up in our dreams.” For example, if you have a dream where you need to go to the bathroom, you may wake up and say, “Oh, my goodness! I actually really do need to go to the bathroom right now!” So your bodily needs and tensions show up in your dreams. A sexual dream could be the natural call of my body. Maybe I’m experiencing sexual tension in my body. God has built sexual rhythms into our bodies (both male and female) and there are certain times of a week or a month where there’s stronger sexual tension in our bodies.
So if there’s sexual tension in your body that may show up in your dream. I don’t consider that evil because I’m not the one who built sexual rhythms into my body or any kind of rhythm into my body. God did! So I don’t consider that an evil dream. It’s just a dream showing the condition of my body.
A third possible foundation of a sexual dream - it could be symbolic:
I have a strong workaholic nature within me. I just love working. And when I used to take vacations, I found I couldn’t take more than one or two days without feeling guilty (I ought to be working). Now if I ever come to a point in my life where I can take a week-long vacation with no guilt that would mean two warring parts of me worked out their disagreement. These warring parts were: the part that wants to kick back and have fun, and the workaholic part within me. Now a dream that shows this spiritual maturation which has just taken place within me could very likely be a dream composed of images of me having sexual intercourse. And since I’m the workaholic, I’d probably be having intercourse with a woman who is not a workaholic, a woman who can easily have fun in life. This would symbolically show me that two parts of my personality had come together and united.
People have asked me, “Why would God use an evil picture (i.e. adultery) to communicate a spiritual truth?” My answer is, “It is only an evil picture, if you assume it is literal, rather than symbolic.” And God has clearly shown us in the Bible that dreams are to be viewed symbolically. So it is not an evil picture!
A fourth possible source - demons showing up while we sleep:
Down through Church history we have records of demons sexually molesting both men and women in their dreams. These are called incubus and succubus dreams.
Incubus - is a demon in male form who lies upon sleepers, especially women, in order to have intercourse with them. St. Augustine touched on this topic when he stated, “There were too many attacks by incubi to deny them.”(Augustine (410), The City of God 15.23)
Succubus - is a demon in female form, appearing in dreams, seeking to seduce men through sexual intercourse.
So what percentage of the population has experienced incubus or succubus dreams? In the Christian Dream Interpretation seminars I have conducted over the years, I have polled probably 500 Christians, and asked if they have felt they have ever been sexually attacked in their dreams by a demon, and a shocking 15-20% of the hands will go up responding, “yes.” And the numbers are fairly evenly split between men and women. So in my estimation, incubus and succubus encounters do happen, and they happen much more frequently than most of us have imagined. I believe that in incubus and succubus dream encounters, demons are actually molesting people sexually while they sleep.
A second question I have asked in my seminars, is "how many of you have found that as you grew as a Christian the incubus and succubus dreams became less frequent and eventually disappeared altogether? It appeared that about 100% of the hands went up, saying "Yes, this is true." So I believe as our spiritual walls are built stronger, satan has less opportunity to attack us in our dreams at night.
So how do I protect my dream life?
First, you pray for a covering of Christ’s blood over you, and the room. You bind all attack of the enemy and command him to leave. I suggest we focus on Jesus as we fall asleep. I simply say the name “Jesus” over and over, and breathe slowly as I am falling asleep. Since abiding in Christ is to be my focus during the day, why would it not also be my focus as I drift off to sleep? Of course, if you are aware of unconfessed sin in your life, repent and ask for the cleansing blood of Jesus to wash over you and put on His robe of righteousness. This gives me a positive, protected dream life. And if you awaken and are under demonic attack, call upon the name of Jesus to protect and defend you. Bind and cast away any demonic attack in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ.
Response Back from Maria
Thank you for your reply to my question about my dream. I have to sit and really ponder what the possibilities are within your answers below. They each make a lot of sense and I will sit and reflect on what I feel the answer to my dream is. You have my permission to use this dream and my name in your blog if you would like to.
Dreams are really wonderful, especially the ones that I have where they speak prophetically and the ones that take place in real life exactly the way I have dreamed them. This used to be a regular occurrence in the past, and I used to journal them as I had them, and compared them to when they came about in real life.
Thank you again for taking the time to give me some insight into this dream.
Have a blessed day,
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