Romancing the King of Kings

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Romance is at the heart of the universe. It is the key to our existence. As Christians, we are engaged to Jesus, ruling with Him now, and soon to become His bride (Rev. 21:9; 3:21). So let's learn the principles of romance!

Just as our earthly romance with our spouse is composed of acts of endearment, so is our romance with the Lord Jesus Christ. We covered the ingredients of a good marriage in this blog, now let's apply them to our romance with the King of Kings. These concepts are from the Four Gifts of Love® Online Institute and their website is highly recommended.


Comparing Our Earthly and Heavenly Romance

  Earthly Romance Heavenly Romance Heavenly Romance Journaling
1 Affection Worship Do I come before You in worship?
2 Sexual Fulfillment Spiritual union Am I aware of Your union with me?
3 Intimate Conversation Sharing intimately Am I sharing the intimate things with You?
4 Relational Companionship Abiding in Christ Do I welcome Your presence in my fun times?
5 Honesty and Openness Honesty and openness Am I always honest and open with You?
6 Physical Attractiveness Care of my body/temple Am I caring properly for my body?
7 Financial Support Tithes and offerings Am I giving tithes and offerings?
8 Domestic Support Care for neighbors Am I supporting those in need?
9 Family Commitment Committed to His family Am I committed to Your body here on earth?
10 Adoration Adoration Am I adoring You?

Four Gifts of Love®

  Earthly Romance Heavenly Romance Journaling Question
1

The Gift of Care is a willingness and effort to do what you can to make the other happy.

Is my lifestyle making You happy? Is there anything You would like to see adjusted?
2

The Gift of Protection is a willingness and effort to do what you can to avoid making the other unhappy—to avoid being a source of unhappiness.

Am I being careful to not make You unhappy? Is there any area I could improve?
3

The Gift of Honesty is a willingness and effort to do what you can to make everything about you transparent to the other.

Am I being fully transparent with You? Is there any area I am hiding from You?
4

The Gift of Time is a willingness and effort to give daily time to provide the most meaningful acts of care for the other.

Is there anything You would have me do to show how fully I care for You?

Avoid the Love Busters which are repeated behaviors causing unhappiness

  Love Busters Heavenly Romance Journaling
1

Selfish Demands: Attempts to command your spouse to do things that would benefit you at the expense of others.

Do I demand things of You which would benefit me at the expense of others?
2

Disrespectful Judgments: Attempts to “straighten out” others' attitudes, beliefs, and behavior by trying to impose on him or her your way of thinking through lecture, ridicule, threats, or other forceful means.

Do I challenge You and Your ways and Your love and care for me?
3

Angry Outbursts: Deliberate attempts to hurt others because of anger, usually in the form of verbal or physical attack.

When I get angry, do I say things that are hurtful to You?
4

Annoying Habits: Repeated habits that unintentionally cause your spouse to be unhappy. These habits include personal mannerisms such as the way you eat, clean up (or don’t!), and talk.

Are there things I do unintentionally which make You unhappy?
5

Independent Behavior: Behavior conceived and executed without much consideration of your spouse's feelings. These behaviors are usually scheduled and require thought to complete.

Do I do things on my own without checking to ensure I have Your peace in my heart first?
6

Dishonesty: Failure to reveal to your spouse the correct information about your thoughts, feelings, habits, likes/dislikes, personal history, daily activities, and plans for the future.

Do I fail to share with You my thoughts, feelings, likes/dislikes, and plans for the future?

The Love Bank

Make deposits into your Divine Lover's love bank every day!

A list of the above journaling questions can be downloaded here.


Enhancing Communication Skills Series

  1. Enhancing Communication Skills
  2. Twelve Strategies of Compassionate Communication Within the 4 Keys
  3. Create and Sustain Romantic Love to Last a Lifetime
  4. Romancing the King of Kings
  5. Face to Face with Jesus, Our Perfect Model for Intimate Communication

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4 Keys to Hearing God's Voice

4 Keys to Hearing God's Voice

by Mark and Patti Virkler | 305 Pages | Retail: $16.99

Have you ever wished you could just sit down and have a long talk with the Lord? Wouldn't it be wonderful to move beyond having a theology that states that God loves you to actually hearing Him whisper words of love into your heart? When you're worried or confused, wouldn't you love to see the situation from His perspective and hear how He wants you to respond?


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4 Keys to Hearing God's Voice (hard cover)

by Mark and Patti Virkler | 305 Pages

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For the first time EVER! Hardcover copies of 4 Keys to Hearing God's Voice. This is a magnificent, beautiful gift to give for any occasion. Retailing at $24.95, you can purchase it through our website at only $15.00! Bless people with the gift of spiritual intimacy with the Lord Jesus Christ. Get a souvenir copy for yourself. Only 600 copies produced, so order while supplies last!

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Dialogue with God

by Mark and Patti Virkler | 296 Pages

This top seller for 30 years from Bridge Logos provides a narrative, right-brain presentation of the principles of how to hear God's voice. Especially enjoyable for personal use, it makes a great gift for introducing a loved one to the voice of God. This book teaches the four keys to hearing God's voice in readable style, and also devotes two entire chapters to moving samples of people's journaling (i.e. their two-way dialogue with God).

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Have you ever wished you could just sit down and have a long talk with the Lord? Wouldn't it be wonderful to move beyond having a theology that states that God loves you to actually hearing Him whisper words of love into your heart? When you're worried or confused, wouldn't you love to see the situation from His perspective and hear how He wants you to respond? When things don't seem to be going your way and your prayers aren't answered the way you had hoped, wouldn't it be great to hear Him tell you where He is in the midst of it, and what He is working out in your life? Are you ever just a little bit jealous of others who say with such confidence, "The Lord said...."?

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How to Hear God's Voice

by Mark and Patti Virkler | 317 Pages

We recommend that you order the newest revision of this book titled 4 Keys to Hearing God's Voice. It includes 95% of the content of How to Hear God's Voice but is reorganized so it fits perfectly with the 10 DVDs on this subject by Mark Virkler. In addition, it gets you started using the four keys earlier in the book and gives you more journaling samples and exercises. Since we have removed the large margins, it is a smaller and less expensive book.

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Prayers That Heal the Heart - Revised & Expanded 20th Anniversary Edition

by Mark and Patti Virkler | 320 Pages

Prayer counseling that breaks every yoke! Everything you need to experience deep healing of your soul and spirit.

Did you know that you don’t need to be continually plagued by negative thoughts, feelings, pictures or memories?

It is not part of the "human condition" to feel the constant nagging of doubt, insecurity, or anger. No matter what sin you are trying to overcome, what lie you think you’ll always believe, or what traumas your heart has suffered in the past, you will receive total freedom and restoration by praying these prayers in faith. 

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Counseled by God

by Mark and Patti Virkler | 146 Pages

Have you ever been defeated by negative emotions such as anger, fear, guilt, inferiority, condemnation or depression? Have you tried to fight them off unsuccessfully? Is there an answer that is deeper than simply trying to mentally reason yourself out of these emotions? Is there a way that Jesus can speak a word of life into the depths of your emotional despair and bring healing on a deep level? Is there a form of Christian counseling that begins and ends with the movement of Christ within your heart, rather than simply with the words of man?

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Hear God Through Your Dreams Workbook

by Mark and Patti Virkler | 92 Pages

A new book has just been released that accompanies this workbook: Click here for Hearing God Through Your Dreams by Charity Kayembe and Mark Virkler (featured on Sid Roth's "It's Supernatural", with almost a million views just on YouTube).


Do you often wake up feeling there was a significant message in your dream, but you’re just not sure what it is? Like Daniel and Joseph, do you long to be able to help others understand their own dreams and win them to Christ as you explain His night messages to them? Wouldn't it be nice if you could receive mid-course corrections from the Lord while you sleep? Do you wish you could be receiving divine inspiration, creative solutions to problems, and direction from the Lord during that third of your life that you’re “just” sleeping?

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Hearing God Through Your Dreams

by Mark Virkler and Charity Virkler Kayembe | 292 Pages

Learn How to Hear God’s Voice, Even When You Are Sleeping

It is always fun to be on the winning team. Well look what God has done with Charity's new dreams teaching. It has taken off like a rocket with a live TV interview on Cornerstone Network and her Sid Roth interview which has almost a million views on YouTube!

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Everyday Angels

by Charity Virkler Kayembe and Joe Brock 289 Pages

You can partner with Heaven’s angelic hosts!

Do you have guardian angels? Does God want you to know them? Find out what Scripture reveals and how YOU can interact with the company of Heaven!

The supernatural realm permeates our natural world! Therefore, experiencing angels should be an everyday occurrence–we simply need to open our spiritual eyes to their reality and role in our lives.

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