When you mention that you were engaged in a conversation, you say that you spoke to that person, even though you may have spent more time listening. It would be ungracious to point this out even if it were true. Everyone has a story to tell, but how many are eager to listen? Conversation refers to speaking, but those who are skilled at this are good listeners and make the effort to elicit others. Don’t you enjoy the company of those who draw you out and avoid those who drone on? Use this same principle when you come to me. Be not rash in speaking to me but come eager to hear my voice.