Do you give generously to my work? This is a biblical principle. Do you want to give in such a way that your donation will be well managed and effectively used?
If you work hard for what you earn and look for value in everything else you buy, then how much more should you look for value in the resources that you put into the work of my Kingdom? Have you ever donated and later found that the money was mismanaged? You are justified in being upset and looking for other avenues for donation, but this does not reflect badly on you. The money you give is given to me. I receive it from you and impose accountability on those who get it.